I’m so excited to share be continuing this series where we cover curly hair styling tips. I think this series is really going to help you party curly hair!
Last time, I covered the challenges of naturally curly hair as well as products to use.
Today, I’m sharing my curly hair styling tips.
But first, there are 2 important guidelines to follow when dealing with curly hair.
1. Don’t brush your curly hair. There are a couple of reasons for this. First of all, the dryness of curly hair makes it more prone to breakage. Also, there is a propensity to frizz up. We don’t like frizzies. You can use a wide-tooth comb in the shower when your hair is full of conditioner. Never brush your hair when it is drying.
2. Don’t blow dry your hair. Of course, you can blow dry your curly hair if you intend to straighten it, but if want it to have your natural curl shine through, you need to unplug the hairdryer. I for one do not like looking like a wet dog but a blow dryer will just cause your hair to frizz and poof up. (it can also damage it) When you see how I recommend styling, you’ll realize why a blow dryer is your enemy. One thing though, *if you really need to speed up your hair drying* use a defuser and try not to blow your hair around.
There are 2 basic routines I follow for my hair.
1st Up *Wash* Days
Wash Hair With Conditioner. I talked a little about how to wash your curly hair WITHOUT shampoo here. Remember this is the time to comb your hair (when it is full of conditioner). Most of the time I just use my fingers but, again, you can use a wide-tooth comb. When rinsing your hair, you want to leave a little bit of conditioner in it. This helps with frizzies and dryness.
Remove Excess Water. After you have rinsed, you are going to squeeze the excess water out by scrunching your hair. I grab a large section of hair at the end and scrunch it up towards my scalp. All the while, you want to squeeze the excess water out. This helps to relieve weight off of the curls and aid in them going to their natural curly bounce. Next, I wrap my hair in a towel for a few minutes. The Curly Girl Handbook recommends a microfiber turban. I used that for a while but didn’t notice much difference from my regular terry cloth towel.
The main thing to keep in mind is you don’t want to work with overly dry hair and the right amount of moisture is important. I try to get my hair out of the towel and fixed while it is still wet by NOT dripping. If it is too dry, it is frizzy and less cooperative for styling.
Apply Oil to Hair. Next, apply Shea Moisture Argon oil onto the hair. This product comes in a squirt bottle, but I find it’s better to just pour small amounts and smooth it directly on the hair. Pay special attention to the dryer areas of your hair (mine happen to be around my face, the hair ends, and the crown of my head).
Apply Styling Gel. After the oil, use an appropriate amount of styling gel (I like Tresemme). Personally, I have very thick, long hair so I need to apply about half of a palmful but adjust as needed. Avoid placing gel near your scalp and instead focus on your hair lengths and ends.
Part Hair. Once all the product has been applied you’re going to section your hair in half. Below is a picture of my hair at this stage. Everyone’s curls are unique this is just to give you an idea of what my hair looks like at this stage.
Twist Ringlets. After parting, grab chunks of hair about 2-3 fingers diameter and start twisting the sections to form ringlets. Alternate the direction of the twisting to get a more random look. At this point, you will be able to tell if there is either too much or not enough gel. Generally, if there is not enough gel, the curls will not hold their shape from your twisting and will un-twist. Apply more gel as needed.
This is how my hair looks after I’ve twisted all the ringlets on the one side.
Let Hair Air Dry. Do NOT touch your hair until it is dry. The more it is touched and messed with, the more frizzy and out of control it will become.
Separate Curls. The look you have going now is similar to Shirley Temple. You may like that, if so, leave it but it doesn’t fit me. So you’ll separate the curls. Here is my hair dry before separating…
And here is my hair dry AFTER separating…
It is a subtle difference, but matters in my opinion.
So that’s it for how to style Day 1 Curly hair.
Now for the Day 2 or Day 3 Hair
BUT FIRST…
If you have long curly hair, and plan on not *washing* your hair the next day, it’s important that you sleep with your curls protected.
You don’t have to get all crazy about it but if your hair is long enough, you want to do a very high loose ponytail so your curls sit safely at the top of your head.
This way the curls are relatively intact the next morning and you can restyle it without having to *wash* hair again.
The next morning, take your hair down…
It’s not terrible…but definitely bedhead.
For Day 2 and Day 3 Hair, I use this product…
Shea Moisture CES (Curl Enhancing Smoothie)
(I PROMISE I don’t own stock in Shea Moisture, I just love all their products that I have tried).
Take a small glob of the CES and smooth it over hair to get tame down any dry or frizzy sections. Some sections of hair will likely need to be re-twisted. Add a little gel and water to those sections and if the CES doesn’t help form those stubborn curls.
After I’m done smoothing out my hair it looks something like this…
At this point, it’s still a little wet and I try to leave it alone while it dries. The end product is this…
On Day 2 Hair or Day 3 Hair, I often use a claw clip to loosely hold my hair back. Some days my curls last and I’m able to wear my hair down just as I do with Day 1 Hair.
For my hair, I *wash* it every 2 to 3 days.
So that is it for my curly hair styling tips. It was a quick run down through years of trial and error.
Part 3 of the 3-part series is next, where I cover haircuts for naturally curly hair.
Blessings,
You have such beautiful hair!
My hair has a wave to it but never tried twisting. I will try it soon 🙂
Thank you lady! You may be surprised at how curly your hair will be when you do!
Very helpful! Especially appreciate product tips. My hair’s very similar to yours, thick and quite curly, but I’ve been wearing it short and fighting it to not look like a dandelion gone to seed — or wear it in the perpetual pony tail when it grows a bit. With these ideas, I might have the courage to grow it out again….
Perfect picture – dandelion gone to seed! I had shorter hair before and yes, our type of hair can get crazy! 🙂 Hopefully you find the perfect length for you and have more options.
WOW. I may have just found the way to tame my curls… It’s been a looonnngg 21 years trying to find something that made me feel comfortable when wearing my hair curly(which is something I fought for years and years) This is awesome. Thanks again! 🙂
So happy if this could help you Gaby!! I fought my hair for years.
I have a question- how long does it take for your hair to dry? Mine takes like half a day, do you go out with your hair in the pre seperated ringlet sections?
Unfortunately Alaina, mine takes several hours at least. I wish it would dry faster but it doesn’t without a defuser. I do my best to not mess with it when it’s in the drying stage and I leave the ringlets together and not separated. I do go out with my hair in ringlets and pull them apart when they’re dry.
In a pinch, you can use a defuser to avoid the Curly Sue look. Good thing is, if you only “wash” your hair a couple times a week you don’t have to deal with defusing every day.
Love your hair! I just received my Curly Girl book a few days ago! Would you give a little more detail in how you separate your curls without making your hair frizzy? Do you shake your head with fingers at the scalp or separate each one with your fingers? Thank you so much for posting this and giving product info.
Hi Becky, to separate the ringlets I just pull them apart gently with my fingers. I split them up just enough to get a more natural look. I’m pretty selective with how I separate them and I don’t run my fingers through my hair. Hope this helps explain it a little better and thank you for your kind comments!
Thank the Lord my mother has curly hair. However, hers is quite thin and she has gorgeous, perfect curls. I got my (now bald) father’s afro. Even my mom didn’t know what to do with it until I was almost 16. We’ve also done no shampoo and while that doesn’t work for my mom, my hair looks so much better. I’ve still really struggled with how to style it, so these tips are great, thank you! Now if only I could find someone who can give me a decent hair cut…
You’re so welcome Kayla! It’s funny how it all works out. 4 kids for me and only my older son has my curls. So the ones who learn how to manage curls don’t end up with curly-haired kids (and vice versa).
Amen on the stylist issue!! It is really hard but once you find the one who works with your curl and listens to you, they’re worth their weight in gold!
How often do you have your hair trimmed?
I get it trimmed about every 6 months.
I just read your articles and can’t wait to try them. I also have very curly thick hair. It stays put up probably 98% of the time because I just don’t really know what to do with it. Thanks so much for the tips!!!
You are so welcome Baily! I hope my tips work for you!
Hey I am 15 and wished I had heard of this sooner! What are your thoughts on products with sulfate or alcohol in them? I have the same long and thick curly hair as you do but need something for school days
Hi Isabella! I do avoid shampoo (which often has sulfates in it). When I need to “clean” my hair I do a mixture of Apple Cider Vinegar and conditioner (coming to the blog VERY soon). This strips away any build-up.
Concerning alcohols, here is an article that may be helpful to you. http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/ingredients/all-about-alcohols